Desenamorarse Conjugation in Spanish

The Spanish verb desenamorarse means to fall out of love, and it is a verb you will use again and again once you know it. Desenamorarse means to fall out of love, and it is used for feelings fading after a relationship ends or changes. It is always used with de, as in desenamorarse de su novio, and it is fully regular. Like every Spanish verb, desenamorarse changes its ending for each person and tense, and this page gives you the complete picture: every tense, every person, the gerund and the past participle, all from the verified conjugation tables. For example, in the present tense you say me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco, and in the preterite you say me desenamoré con el tiempo y la distancia. Work through the tables below, read the notes for each tense, and then test yourself with the examples, the common mistakes and the quiz at the end of the page.

Quick facts

  • Infinitive: desenamorarse
  • English: to fall out of love
  • Verb type: regular -ar verb, reflexive
  • Ending: -ar
  • Gerund: desenamorando
  • Past participle: desenamorado
  • Auxiliary verb: haber (all perfect tenses are formed with haber + desenamorado)
  • Reflexive pronouns: me, te, se, nos, os, se — one before every conjugated form, matching the person.

Pronunciation is not listed on this page: the verified tables do not include IPA for desenamorarse, so no pronunciation is given rather than an invented one. Desenamorarse always takes de: me desenamoro de él. Enamorarse, its opposite, takes de too.

Full conjugation tables

Every form below comes from the verified conjugation tables for desenamorarse. The imperfect subjunctive is shown in its -ra forms; the -se forms use the same stem. For reflexive verbs, the pronoun column shows the reflexive pronoun that goes before each form.

Present indicative

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamoro
tú te desenamoras
él/ella/Ud. se desenamora
nosotros/as nos desenamoramos
vosotros/as os desenamoráis
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoran

Preterite

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamoré
tú te desenamoraste
él/ella/Ud. se desenamoró
nosotros/as nos desenamoramos
vosotros/as os desenamorasteis
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoraron

Imperfect

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamoraba
tú te desenamorabas
él/ella/Ud. se desenamoraba
nosotros/as nos desenamorábamos
vosotros/as os desenamorabais
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoraban

Future

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamoraré
tú te desenamorarás
él/ella/Ud. se desenamorará
nosotros/as nos desenamoraremos
vosotros/as os desenamoraréis
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamorarán

Conditional

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamoraría
tú te desenamorarías
él/ella/Ud. se desenamoraría
nosotros/as nos desenamoraríamos
vosotros/as os desenamoraríais
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamorarían

Present perfect

Person Pronoun Form
yo me he desenamorado
tú te has desenamorado
él/ella/Ud. se ha desenamorado
nosotros/as nos hemos desenamorado
vosotros/as os habéis desenamorado
ellos/ellas/Uds. se han desenamorado

Pluperfect

Person Pronoun Form
yo me había desenamorado
tú te habías desenamorado
él/ella/Ud. se había desenamorado
nosotros/as nos habíamos desenamorado
vosotros/as os habíais desenamorado
ellos/ellas/Uds. se habían desenamorado

Future perfect

Person Pronoun Form
yo me habré desenamorado
tú te habrás desenamorado
él/ella/Ud. se habrá desenamorado
nosotros/as nos habremos desenamorado
vosotros/as os habréis desenamorado
ellos/ellas/Uds. se habrán desenamorado

Conditional perfect

Person Pronoun Form
yo me habría desenamorado
tú te habrías desenamorado
él/ella/Ud. se habría desenamorado
nosotros/as nos habríamos desenamorado
vosotros/as os habríais desenamorado
ellos/ellas/Uds. se habrían desenamorado

Present subjunctive

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamore
tú te desenamores
él/ella/Ud. se desenamore
nosotros/as nos desenamoremos
vosotros/as os desenamoréis
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoren

Imperfect subjunctive (-ra)

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamorara
tú te desenamoraras
él/ella/Ud. se desenamorara
nosotros/as nos desenamoráramos
vosotros/as os desenamorarais
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoraran

Imperative (affirmative)

Person Pronoun Form
tú te desenamora
él/ella/Ud. se desenamore
nosotros/as nos desenamoremos
vosotros/as os desenamorad
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoren

Imperative (negative)

Person Pronoun Form
tú te desenamores
él/ella/Ud. se desenamore
nosotros/as nos desenamoremos
vosotros/as os desenamoréis
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoren

Gerund and past participle

Form Spanish Use
Gerund desenamorando with estar for the progressive: estoy desenamorando (or me estoy desenamorando for this reflexive verb)
Past participle desenamorado with haber for the perfect tenses: he desenamorado

How to use each tense

Present indicative

Use the present for routines, general facts and what is happening right now. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the present looks like this in a real sentence: Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco. Learn the present forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Preterite

Use the preterite for finished actions with a clear end, often with ayer, el año pasado or anoche. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the preterite looks like this in a real sentence: Ayer, me desenamoré tras años de discusiones. Learn the preterite forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Imperfect

Use the imperfect for background, habits and actions in progress in the past, often with de niño, antes or mientras. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the imperfect looks like this in a real sentence: De niño, me desenamoraba con el tiempo y la distancia. Learn the imperfect forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Future

Use the future for plans, predictions and promises, often with mañana, el año que viene or pronto. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the future looks like this in a real sentence: Mañana, me desenamoraré de su marido el año pasado. Learn the future forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Conditional

Use the conditional for polite requests, hypotheticals and what would happen, often with si clauses. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the conditional looks like this in a real sentence: Me desenamoraría de su novio poco a poco si pudiera. Learn the conditional forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Present perfect

Use the present perfect for recent actions and experiences, often with hoy, esta semana or ya. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the present perfect looks like this in a real sentence: Hoy, me he desenamorado tras años de discusiones. Learn the present perfect forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Pluperfect

Use the pluperfect when one past action happened before another past action. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the pluperfect looks like this in a real sentence: Me había desenamorado con el tiempo y la distancia antes de salir. Learn the pluperfect forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Future perfect

Use the future perfect for something that will already be finished by a future time. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the future perfect looks like this in a real sentence: Para mañana, me habré desenamorado de su marido el año pasado. Learn the future perfect forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Conditional perfect

Use the conditional perfect for what would have happened under different conditions. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the conditional perfect looks like this in a real sentence: Me habría desenamorado de su novio poco a poco con más tiempo. Learn the conditional perfect forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Present subjunctive

Use the present subjunctive after expressions of wish, doubt, emotion and hope, such as espero que or quiero que. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the present subjunctive looks like this in a real sentence: Espero que él se desenamore tras años de discusiones. Learn the present subjunctive forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Imperfect subjunctive (-ra)

Use the imperfect subjunctive after past wishes and in si clauses about the past, and note the -ra forms shown here; the -se forms use the same stem. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the imperfect subjunctive looks like this in a real sentence: Si él se desenamorara con el tiempo y la distancia, todo cambiaría. Learn the imperfect subjunctive forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Imperative (affirmative)

Use the affirmative imperative for direct commands, instructions and invitations. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the affirmative imperative looks like this in a real sentence: Que se desenamore de su marido el año pasado. Learn the affirmative imperative forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Imperative (negative)

Use the negative imperative, always with no, to tell someone not to do something. For this verb the tense is regular, so the forms follow the standard endings for its verb class. For desenamorarse, the negative imperative looks like this in a real sentence: No te desenamores de su novio poco a poco. Learn the negative imperative forms in the table above alongside this example, and notice how the ending, not the stem, usually carries the meaning of the tense.

Example sentences

Ten natural sentences with desenamorarse, covering different tenses and persons. Each one uses a form from the tables above.

  1. Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco. — I fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little.
  2. Se desenamora tras años de discusiones. — He/she falls out of love after years of arguments.
  3. Ayer, me desenamoré con el tiempo y la distancia. — Yesterday, I fell out of love with time and distance.
  4. Antes, nosotros nos desenamorábamos de su marido el año pasado. — Before, we used to fall out of love of her husband last year.
  5. Mañana, tú te desenamorarás de su novio poco a poco. — Tomorrow, you will fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little.
  6. Yo me desenamoraría tras años de discusiones si tuviera más tiempo. — I would fall out of love after years of arguments if I had more time.
  7. Él se ha desenamorado con el tiempo y la distancia. — He has fallen out of love with time and distance.
  8. Espero que él se desenamore de su marido el año pasado. — I hope he falls out of love of her husband last year.
  9. Yo ya me había desenamorado de su novio poco a poco antes de salir. — I had already fallen out of love of her boyfriend little by little before leaving.
  10. Ellos se desenamoraban tras años de discusiones cuando eran jóvenes. — They used to fall out of love after years of arguments when they were young.

Common mistakes

  1. Wrong: Yo desenamoro de su novio poco a poco. — Right: Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco. — Desenamorarse is reflexive, so the pronoun me is required: without it the verb means something else, or nothing at all.
  2. Wrong: Ayer yo desenamoro tras años de discusiones. — Right: Ayer yo desenamoré tras años de discusiones. — The present and the preterite are different tenses: desenamoro is happening now, while desenamoré is a finished action in the past. Use the preterite with ayer.
  3. Wrong: Treating desenamorarse and enamorarse as identical in every context. — Right: Desenamorarse means to fall out of love, while enamorarse means to fall in love. — They overlap, but each has uses the other does not: desenamorarse fits sentences such as Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco, while enamorarse belongs in a different sentence. Check the meaning you want before choosing.
  4. Wrong: Yo soy desenamorado tras años de discusiones. — Right: Yo he desenamorado tras años de discusiones. — Spanish perfect tenses use haber, not ser: he desenamorado, has desenamorado, ha desenamorado. Ser plus the participle makes a passive, not a perfect tense.
  5. Wrong: De niño, yo desenamoré con el tiempo y la distancia todos los días. — Right: De niño, yo desenamoraba con el tiempo y la distancia todos los días. — For a repeated habit in the past, use the imperfect (desenamoraba), not the preterite. The preterite (desenamoré) is for one finished action.

Quiz: test yourself

Ten questions on desenamorarse. Choose the right form, then check the answer key below.

  1. Complete the sentence: Yo ___ de su novio poco a poco. (present tense) A. me desenamoro B. te desenamoras C. se desenamora D. nos desenamoramos

  2. Complete the sentence: Ayer, él ___ tras años de discusiones. (preterite) A. me desenamoré B. te desenamoraste C. se desenamoraron D. se desenamoró

  3. Complete the sentence: Antes, nosotros ___ con el tiempo y la distancia. (imperfect) A. te desenamorabas B. se desenamoraban C. nos desenamorábamos D. me desenamoraba

  4. Complete the sentence: Mañana, tú ___ de su marido el año pasado. (future) A. nos desenamoraremos B. te desenamorarás C. me desenamoraré D. se desenamorará

  5. Complete the sentence: Yo ___ de su novio poco a poco si pudiera. (conditional) A. me desenamoraría B. te desenamorarías C. se desenamoraría D. se desenamorarían

  6. Complete the sentence: Espero que él ___ tras años de discusiones. (present subjunctive) A. me desenamore B. te desenamores C. nos desenamoremos D. se desenamore

  7. Complete the sentence: Si yo ___ con el tiempo y la distancia, todo cambiaría. (imperfect subjunctive, -ra form) A. se desenamorara B. nos desenamoráramos C. me desenamorara D. te desenamoraras

  8. Complete the sentence: Nosotros ___ de su marido el año pasado. (present perfect) A. se han desenamorado B. nos hemos desenamorado C. me he desenamorado D. te has desenamorado

  9. Complete the command: No ___ de su novio poco a poco. (negative imperative, tú) A. te desenamores B. se desenamore C. nos desenamoremos D. os desenamoréis

  10. Which is the gerund of desenamorarse, used with estar for the progressive? A. desenamorado B. desenamoro C. desenamoré D. desenamorando

Answer key

  1. me desenamoro — The first-person present of desenamorarse is me desenamoro. The other options are the tú, él/ella and nosotros forms.
  2. se desenamoró — The third-person preterite of desenamorarse is se desenamoró, the form for a single finished action in the past.
  3. nos desenamorábamos — The nosotros imperfect of desenamorarse is nos desenamorábamos, used here for a repeated past habit.
  4. te desenamorarás — The second-person future of desenamorarse is te desenamorarás.
  5. me desenamoraría — The first-person conditional of desenamorarse is me desenamoraría, the form for what would happen.
  6. se desenamore — After espero que, the subjunctive is required: the third-person present subjunctive of desenamorarse is se desenamore.
  7. me desenamorara — The first-person imperfect subjunctive (-ra) of desenamorarse is me desenamorara.
  8. nos hemos desenamorado — The nosotros present perfect of desenamorarse is nos hemos desenamorado: hemos + desenamorado.
  9. te desenamores — The negative tú imperative uses the present subjunctive form with no before it: te desenamores.
  10. desenamorando — The gerund of desenamorarse is desenamorando: estoy desenamorando. The participle desenamorado is used with haber instead.

Frequently asked questions

What does desenamorarse mean in English?

Desenamorarse means to fall out of love. It is used in everyday situations such as Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco. The exact English wording depends on the context, but the core meaning stays the same across the tenses.

Is desenamorarse a reflexive verb?

Yes. Desenamorarse is reflexive, so it always takes a reflexive pronoun that matches the person: me, te, se, nos, os or se. For example, Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco and él se desenamora tras años de discusiones. If you leave the pronoun out, the verb changes meaning or stops making sense.

What is the difference between desenamorarse and enamorarse?

Desenamorarse means to fall out of love, while enamorarse means to fall in love. They are easy to confuse because they appear in similar situations, but they are not interchangeable: use desenamorarse when you mean to fall out of love, as in Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco, and use enamorarse for to fall in love. When in doubt, check the object of the sentence — it usually shows which verb fits.

How do I say “I fall out of love” in the past?

It depends on the kind of past. For one finished action, use the preterite: yo me desenamoré tras años de discusiones. For a repeated habit or background in the past, use the imperfect: yo me desenamoraba con el tiempo y la distancia. For something that has just happened, use the present perfect: yo me he desenamorado tras años de discusiones.

How do I practise desenamorarse?

Start with the present tense table, then drill the preterite and the imperfect, since those two past tenses cause the most mistakes. Try the desenamorarse examples and quiz page for more sentences, and use the Spanish Verb Quiz to test the forms under pressure.

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