Desenamorarse in the Present Tense

Desenamorarse means “to fall out of love”, and this page covers exactly one thing: desenamorarse in the present tense. The present is the tense Spanish speakers reach for when they talk about routines, facts and what is happening now. On this page you will find the full present table for desenamorarse, how the tense is formed for this verb, the situations where it is used, how it differs from the preterite, worked examples, the mistakes learners make most often, an eight-question quiz with explained answers, and answers to the questions students ask about desenamorarse in the present. For example: “Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco.” — I fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little. Everything on this page uses the forms of desenamorarse exactly as they are conjugated in the present, so you can trust every form you see here.

Desenamorarse in the Present Tense — full table

Person Pronoun Form
yo me desenamoro
tú te desenamoras
él/ella/Ud. se desenamora
nosotros/as nos desenamoramos
vosotros/as os desenamoráis
ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoran

Gerund: desenamorando · Past participle: desenamorado

The gerund is desenamorando, which you use with estar to say what is happening right now: “Estoy desenamorando” means the action of desenamorarse is in progress at this very moment. The past participle is desenamorado, which you use with haber in the perfect tenses: “he desenamorado” is the present perfect, used for a completed action. Keep both forms in mind as you read the examples below, because the present is only one part of how desenamorarse is used.

How the present of desenamorarse is formed

Desenamorarse is regular in the present tense. Take the stem desenamor and add the present endings for -ar verbs: -o, -as, -a, -amos, -áis, -an, giving desenamoro, desenamoras, desenamora, desenamoramos, desenamoráis, desenamoran. Watch the accents: the yo form is desenamoro and the él/ella/Ud. form is desenamora. Because desenamorarse is reflexive, put the pronoun before each form: me desenamoro, te desenamoras, se desenamora, nos desenamoramos, os desenamoráis, se desenamoran.

When to use the present of desenamorarse

The present is not a single-purpose tense. Below are the five situations where you will use desenamorarse in the present most often. Each one comes with a real example, so read the rule, then say the example out loud.

1. Routines and habits

The present tense is the tense of what you do regularly. When something happens every day, every week or every morning, the present is the right choice, and desenamorarse is no exception. Example: “Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco todos los días.” — I fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little every day.

2. Facts and general truths

The present states facts that are true in general, not just right now. Use it to say what desenamorarse means in practice and how it works in the world. Example: “Se desenamora tras años de discusiones.” — He/she falls out of love after years of arguments.

3. What is happening right now

The present also describes actions in progress at this very moment. When something is happening as you speak, the present tense says so directly. Example: “Yo me desenamoro con el tiempo y la distancia ahora.” — I fall out of love with time and distance now.

4. Scheduled events in the near future

Spanish often uses the present for things that are already arranged, such as plans for tomorrow or next week. The present sounds more certain than the future in these cases. Example: “Nosotros nos desenamoramos de su marido el año pasado.” — We fall out of love of her husband last year.

5. Instructions and everyday speech

In everyday speech the present gives instructions, makes offers and states what someone does. It is the tense you will hear most often in conversation. Example: “Tú te desenamoras de su novio poco a poco.” — You fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little.

Present Tense vs Preterite: how to choose

The closest tense to the present is the preterite, and choosing between them is one of the first decisions in Spanish. The rule is simple: the present describes routines, facts and what is happening now, while the preterite reports one finished action. The three pairs below use the same verb, so the only thing that changes is whether the action is a habit or a finished event. Time words help: todos los días and cada semana point to the present, while ayer and la semana pasada point to the preterite.

  • Present Tense: “Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco todos los días.” — I fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little every day.

  • Preterite: “Ayer, yo me desenamoré de su novio poco a poco.” — Yesterday, I fell out of love of her boyfriend little by little.

  • The present sentence describes a habit; the preterite sentence reports one finished action. Todos los días points to the present, ayer points to the preterite.

  • Present Tense: “Él se desenamora tras años de discusiones cada semana.” — He/she falls out of love after years of arguments every week.

  • Preterite: “La semana pasada, él se desenamoró tras años de discusiones.” — Last week, he fell out of love after years of arguments.

  • Cada semana describes a routine, so the present is right; la semana pasada names one finished week, so the preterite is right.

  • Present Tense: “Nosotros nos desenamoramos con el tiempo y la distancia a menudo.” — We fall out of love with time and distance often.

  • Preterite: “Ayer, nosotros nos desenamoramos con el tiempo y la distancia.” — Yesterday, we fell out of love with time and distance.

  • The present sentence counts no single event; the preterite sentence counts one finished action. That difference — habit versus finished event — is the whole decision.

Example sentences: desenamorarse in the present

Read these eight sentences out loud. They cover all six persons, so by the end you will have seen every form in the table used in a real sentence. Pay attention to the words around the verb — the time expressions, the objects, the other verbs — because those are what make each sentence sound natural.

  1. “Me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco.” — I fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little.

  2. “Te desenamoras tras años de discusiones.” — You fall out of love after years of arguments.

  3. “Se desenamora con el tiempo y la distancia.” — He/she falls out of love with time and distance.

  4. “Nos desenamoramos de su marido el año pasado.” — We fall out of love of her husband last year.

  5. “Os desenamoráis de su novio poco a poco.” — You fall out of love of her boyfriend little by little.

  6. “Se desenamoran tras años de discusiones.” — They fall out of love after years of arguments.

  7. “Me desenamoro con el tiempo y la distancia.” — I fall out of love with time and distance.

  8. “Se desenamora de su marido el año pasado.” — He/she falls out of love of her husband last year.

Common mistakes with desenamorarse in the present

These are the errors learners actually make with this verb in this tense. Each one shows the wrong version, the right version, and why the correction matters.

  • Wrong: “Yo desenamoro de su novio poco a poco.” Right: “Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco.” Why: Desenamorarse is reflexive, so the pronoun me is required before every form. Without it the sentence is incomplete.

  • Wrong: “Yo desenamoro tras años de discusiones ayer.” Right: “Ayer yo desenamoré tras años de discusiones.” Why: The present tense cannot describe a finished action yesterday. Ayer forces the preterite, so the form must change to desenamoré.

  • Wrong: “Nosotros desenamoras con el tiempo y la distancia.” Right: “Nosotros nos desenamoramos con el tiempo y la distancia.” Why: Nosotros needs nos desenamoramos. The tú form desenamoras belongs with tú.

  • Wrong: “Ellos desenamoro de su marido el año pasado todos los días.” Right: “Ellos se desenamoran de su marido el año pasado todos los días.” Why: The verb must agree with its subject. Ellos needs the ellos form se desenamoran, not the yo form desenamoro. This is the most common agreement slip in the present tense, and it happens because learners memorise the yo form first and then reuse it for every person.

Quiz: desenamorarse in the present

Choose the correct answer for each question, then check the answer key. Every answer is explained, so a wrong answer still teaches you something.

1. Complete the sentence: “Yo ______ de su novio poco a poco.” (Of her boyfriend little by little.)

  • (a) me desenamoro
  • (b) te desenamoras
  • (c) se desenamora

Answer: me desenamoro — The yo form of desenamorarse in the present is me desenamoro. The other options are the forms for different persons, so they do not agree with the subject.

2. Complete the sentence: “¿Tú ______ tras años de discusiones?” (After years of arguments.)

  • (a) me desenamoro
  • (b) se desenamora
  • (c) te desenamoras

Answer: te desenamoras — The tú form of desenamorarse in the present is te desenamoras. The other options are the forms for different persons, so they do not agree with the subject.

3. Complete the sentence: “Él ______ con el tiempo y la distancia.” (With time and distance.)

  • (a) te desenamoras
  • (b) se desenamora
  • (c) me desenamoro

Answer: se desenamora — The él/ella/Ud. form of desenamorarse in the present is se desenamora. The other options are the forms for different persons, so they do not agree with the subject.

4. Complete the sentence: “Nosotros ______ de su marido el año pasado.” (Of her husband last year.)

  • (a) nos desenamoramos
  • (b) me desenamoro
  • (c) te desenamoras

Answer: nos desenamoramos — The nosotros/as form of desenamorarse in the present is nos desenamoramos. The other options are the forms for different persons, so they do not agree with the subject.

5. What is the vosotros/as form of desenamorarse in the present?

  • (a) me desenamoro
  • (b) te desenamoras
  • (c) os desenamoráis

Answer: os desenamoráis — From the table above: vosotros/as takes os desenamoráis. Say it with the example sentence “Vosotros os desenamoráis de su novio poco a poco.” to fix it in your memory.

6. Complete the sentence: “Ellos ______ tras años de discusiones.” (After years of arguments.)

  • (a) te desenamoras
  • (b) se desenamoran
  • (c) me desenamoro

Answer: se desenamoran — The ellos/ellas/Uds. form of desenamorarse in the present is se desenamoran. The other options are the forms for different persons, so they do not agree with the subject.

7. Which is the correct yo form of desenamorarse in the present?

  • (a) me desenamoro
  • (b) te desenamoras
  • (c) se desenamora

Answer: me desenamoro — The yo form is me desenamoro. The other two options are the forms for other persons.

8. Which sentence describes a habit in the present?

  • (a) Yo me desenamoré de su novio poco a poco todos los días.
  • (b) Nosotros nos desenamoraremos de su novio poco a poco mañana.
  • (c) Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco todos los días.

Answer: Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco todos los días. — “Yo me desenamoro de su novio poco a poco todos los días.” describes a habit, so it takes the present. The second option reports a finished action in the past, and the third looks to the future.

Frequently asked questions

Is desenamorarse regular in the present?

Yes. Desenamorarse is regular in the present: desenamoro, desenamoras, desenamora, desenamoramos, desenamoráis, desenamoran. Watch the accents on the yo and él forms, and remember that only context tells the nosotros form apart from the present-tense nosotros form when they are identical.

What is the past participle of desenamorarse?

The past participle is desenamorado: 'He desenamorado' means 'I have fallen out of love'. It is used with haber in every perfect tense. The gerund is desenamorando.

Does desenamorarse take a preposition?

It depends on the meaning. Desenamorarse always takes de: me desenamoro de él. Enamorarse, its opposite, takes de too. In the examples on this page, desenamorarse appears with complements such as de su novio poco a poco and tras años de discusiones, so copy those patterns when you write your own sentences.

How do I remember the present forms of desenamorarse?

Say the six forms out loud in order, three times, with a real sentence for each one: yo me desenamoro, tú te desenamoras, él/ella/Ud. se desenamora, nosotros/as nos desenamoramos, vosotros/as os desenamoráis, ellos/ellas/Uds. se desenamoran. Then write three of your own sentences with desenamorarse in the present, using the examples on this page as models.

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